Arranged marriages

Arranged marriages are almost unique to South Asians. Arranged marriages are also popular in the South West Asian nations. So arranged marriages are popular in South and South West Asia; and arranged marriages almost define people in this region. The people of South Asia and South West Asia are the arranged marriage people. I guess there are two kinds of people in this world: those who are supportive of arranged marriages and those who are unsupportive of arranged marriages.

You see, there are other non-Asian nations that have a diverse population and income disparity as India’s, but per capita, they have far more social problems than Hindus. Why? My enlightenment tells me that it is probably because, per capita, they produce far more illegitimate babies than Hindus. Illegitimate persons do not know who they are, or how they came to this world. They are rootless people. They are generally not ashamed to misbehave. Of course, this is a stereotype of illegitimates and there are many exceptions. In such non-Asian societies arranged marriage is almost impossible to introduce as a cure to reduce the birth of illegitimate babies to a minimum. However, Hindus are arrange marriage people any way, and this is where the advantage of Hindus over non-Asians lay; and in this world if you do not take advantage of your advantage, then you are a fool. I guess there are two kinds of people in this world: on the one hand there are the arranged marriage people, and on the other hand there are the illegitimate babies people. Let us hope that Hindus perpetuate arranged marriages as long as they can in order to reduce social problems to a minimum. We South Asians need to define ourselves as the arrange marriage people and be proud of it.

Without giving up arranged marriages, we Hindu’s have been able to achieve the second fastest growing economy in the world. Without sacrificing arranged marriages, India has achieved a multi-party political system, one person one vote, and an independent judiciary. Electronic voting machines (EVM’s) are increasingly being used in India. Without giving up arranged marriages, India manages more than one billion people through a multi party political system, which is unprecedented in human history.

I am proud to say that my beloved parents engaged in arranged marriage. I know who I am. I know who my parents are. It is crystal clear to me who my beloved parents are. I am rootful, not rootless. There are certain good things among Hindus that we want to keep. As a Hindu if you agree with me, please do put arranged marriages without enforcement up on a pedestal. Within India I think arranged marriage without enforcement is widespread among both Hindus and non-Hindus and so I think India should be okay.

I hope that I would not be considered racially prejudiced. For decades, Whites have done extensive anthropological studies of non-Whites. There are numerous books that have been written by Whites on anthropology. Since I am a non-White, I decided to do an anthropological study of Whites.


It is very common in USA for persons who reach the age of 18 to move out of their parent’s homes and live elsewhere; and if the person does not move out of the parent’s home at age 18, he then risks being asked to leave home by the parents. There is a need to understand that USA has a different culture and South Asia has a different culture. If Americans want to move out of their parent’s home at age 18, it is their own prerogative. Americans may have their own reasons for detaching from their parents at age 18, and I hope they continue to do so because it not for me to decide American family values. Some Americans come from dysfunctional families and I call them rootless, family-less, and parent-less people; and these people are often street smart. It pains me to state that there are many deadbeat parents in USA; nobody knows how many deadbeat parents there are in USA; nobody will ever know how many deadbeat parents there are in USA. If you go to http://www.google.com/ and type the words DEADBEAT PARENT, you can read more about deadbeat parents.This is not a knock on Whites; there are many Whites who have been kind to me; there are many different kinds of Whites, just as there are many different kinds of Hindus. American family values are American family values, and Asian family values are Asian family values. In Asia, it is very common for grandparents, parents, and grandchildren to live under the same roof. The Japanese work for the same employer for many years. In South Asia and South West Asia, arranged marriages are very common. So there is a difference between Asians and Whites. Once again, this is not a knock on Whites because there are different kinds of Whites, just as there are different kinds of South Asians. Numerous Whites have been kind to me and I appreciate their kindness. Some of the best people I have known are Whites.

Yes, in South Asia and South West Asia, arranged marriages are very common. India's historical ties with South West Asia cannot be denied. Attempts to divide the peoples of South Asia and South West Asia should be resisted. Good neighborliness should be a cornerstone of India's foreign policy. Please do keep your team work, team spirit, and team based problem solving.

India’s best bet would be to keep team work, team spirit, and team based problem solving. I shall try to prove the advantages of team work, team spirit, and team based problem solving. For instance, is the tiger stronger than the dogs? It all depends. One tiger can defeat one dog any day. However, what will happen if the dogs pool their resources? If 30 dogs unite, then the 30 dogs as a united force can defend themselves against one tiger any day. Self-defense is an inviolable human right. It all depends on how united the Indians are. Similarly, one engineer in the Western nations may be qualitatively better than one engineer in India. However, if ten engineers in India unite, meet regularly, and share their experiences, and teach each other, then all ten engineers would improve rapidly and be a match to Western engineers. Similarly, if ten physicians in India unite, meet regularly, and share their experiences, and teach each other, then all ten physicians would improve rapidly and be a match to Western physicians. Thus engineers and technicians meeting and sharing experiences and teaching each other is to the advantage of India; and this is why team work, team spirit, and team based problem solving is important. If India’s manpower were to act as individuals competing with each other, and not as a team, they would not be able to improve fast enough to compete with the Western nations. It must be made a national policy that India’s manpower meets regularly to exchange information and teach each other.

The civil engineers in India should meet annually, biennially, or triennially, share their experiences and teach each other; and this meeting will only enrich all the participants. The electrical engineers in India should meet annually, biennially, or triennially, share their experiences and teach each other; and this meeting will only enrich all the participants. The physicians in India should meet annually, biennially, or triennially, share their experiences and teach each other; and this meeting will only enrich all the participants. The software engineers in India should meet annually, biennially, or triennially, share their experiences and teach each other; and this meeting will only enrich all the participants. The wheat farmers in India should meet annually, biennially, or triennially, share their experiences and teach each other; and this meeting will only enrich all the participants. The teachers in India should meet annually, biennially, or triennially, share their experiences and teach each other; and this meeting will only enrich all the participants. I hope this meeting will not degenerate into a buyer-seller meeting place because it will defeat the purpose of sharing experiences and teaching each other.

It is like a pilgrimage. The civil engineers should go on their annual, biennial, or triennial pilgrimage to meet other civil engineers. The cooks should go on their annual, biennial, or triennial pilgrimage to meet other cooks. The accountants should go on their annual, biennial, or triennial pilgrimage to meet other accountants. The motor mechanics should go on their annual, biennial, or triennial pilgrimage to meet other motor mechanics.

Each time you act individually, you risk making mistakes. Each time you check something individually, you risk making mistakes because you are a human being. To reduce mistakes, it is better to check collectively. For example, let us discuss editing a document. It is better to get a team to edit the document so as to reduce mistakes. Many minds are better than one. This is why teamwork and team based problem solving is important. Another example I have known of is a fictitious story. Once upon a time there was a king. He wanted a building and so asked a famous architect to design it. The architect proudly presented the plans to the king. The king and his aides checked the design and found out that it was missing a restroom/toilet. The architect, upon realizing his mistake, committed suicide to hide his embarrassment. The solution to the problem is that many people have to do the checking. Many minds are better than one.


My feeling is that politicians and bureaucrats should act only to provide, at best, a room for the meeting of the people. It would be best that politicians and bureaucrats not participate at the meeting because I fear that politicians and bureaucrats may try to fulfill their personal agenda at the meeting. This regular meeting strategy will help to upgrade India’s human resources rapidly and make it withstand foreign competition. I also feel that regular meetings are a cost efficient way to upgrade India’s human resources. If there is good cooperation among Indians, then these regular meetings can give India its competitive edge to face foreign competition. India’s upgrading should be centered on team work, team spirit, and team based problem solving. Please do learn a lesson from dogs. It happens in the forests of Asia all the time. Tigers are cats and hunt individually. Tigers do fear dogs in the forests of Asia. Tigers have been known to run away from a pack of dogs. In fact, a tiger had better run away from a pack of dogs.

In fact, by offering team work, team spirit, and team based problem solving as India's specialty, she may even be able to attract foreign investment.

Also, India should separate teachers from exams.

The Cold War is almost over. What I am about to admit is long overdue. It is a secret I have been living with for years. I am embarrassed to state that I have kept it a secret all these years. It’s about the Second World War. Though many people know this secret, it is time for me to admit it. The secret is that it was the former USSR that played a pivotal role in defeating the Nazi Germans. The former USSR lost 20 million people to defeat Nazi Germany. Yes, it is 20 million. There were cases of Russian boys with sticks fighting against machine gun carrying Germans. The USA may have lost about 1 or 1.5 million people to defeat Nazi Germany. I have nothing against today’s Germans, but it would be a very different world today if the former USSR was unwilling to pay a heavy price to defeat the Nazi Germans. Allow me to credit the former USSR for defeating Nazi Germany.


After Nazi Germany was defeated in the Second World War, there was a rush to grab German scientists. The USA took German scientists back to USA to build up their nuclear and space program. The USSR took German scientists back to the USSR to build up their nuclear and space program. There is always a high demand for German scientists. Even the French use German scientists. Wait a minute. I think the whole world subscribes to a nothing is fair culture. Yes, over the centuries the USA was able to attract successive waves of talented immigrants who have contributed enormously to USA in order to continuously rejuvenate her and keep her competitive. In sharp contrast, developing nations have never been successful in attracting very many talented immigrants. The good news for India is that, as India’s economy improves, some Indians living outside India are returning to India. Yes, slowly but surely the Indian Diaspora are returning to Mother India; and these returnees may have something to contribute to India’s economy.

The USA would be remembered more for her economic achievements. With a well ingrained nothing is fair culture, she became a competitive nation. Her nothing is fair culture is probably irreversible and advantageous. When you pause and think about it, capitalism is about the pursuit of self interest, and so there is not much room for people of character and plenty of room for a nothing is fair culture in USA. Mahatma Gandhi, as a person of character, would find it very difficult to get ahead in USA. I think it is okay for USA to have a nothing is fair culture because it has made her competitive. The reality is that corporate America is not concerned about human rights, but profit making. Also, the Second World War was fought in Europe and Asia. After the Second World War, Europe and Asia were war ravaged, leaving the economy of USA untouched and in an advantageous position. Besides, successive waves of talented immigrants have contributed enormously to USA in order to continuously rejuvenate her and keep her competitive.

Now, back to arranged marriages. I do not think that arranged marriages are common in China. China is the land of the great teacher Confucius. Taoism emanates from China. The closeness of Yoga and Tai Chi cannot be denied. Buddhism, which emanates from India, has influenced many parts of Asia. I would insist that India maintain good relations and unity with our Chinese brothers and sisters. Asian unity, team work, and team spirit are important. China-India good neighborliness is important. It is extremely important that India maintain good relations with her immediate neighbors. Let us suppose that there are two nations as neighbors. Let us call them nation A and nation B. Since they are neighbors, what happens in nation A may spill over into nation B. Like wise, what happens in nation B may spill over into nation A. Thus it follows that it is in the best interests of both nations to maintain good relations with each other. Thus I would insist that maintaining good relations with your immediate neighbors be the cornerstone of India’s foreign policy.

Do I recommend arranged marriage to the whole world? No. Realities are different in different parts of the world. Each nation has to take decisions based on its own realities.

We should not encourage or discourage arranged marriages in South Asia. Let the market take care of itself. Let the market decide for itself. I think the market in South Asia has already decided because arranged marriages are popular.

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